“I Can’t Help You”: Years Before Tom Brady Incident, Gisele Bündchen Predicted Overcaring Can Cause Divorce and Heartbreaks

Apart from being a renowned name in the fashion industry, Brazilian model Gisele Bündchen makes use of her experiences garnered throughout the years to guide young people and also those who wish to enter the cutthroat industry of fashion. Gisele wrote ‘Lessons: My Path to a Meaningful Life’ to provide insight into her life experiences and to offer guidance to those who face similar struggles. From how she first entered the start of her career, to dealing with episodes of anxiety and depression, she has documented all the ups and downs in her book. She even wrote about the lessons she learned about emotional bonding, including romantic relationships, and the dos and don’ts of a healthy bond through her own experiences.

The Brazilian model wrote about her belief that sharing is an important part of caring for others. But sometimes, over-caring can lead to people developing unfiltered expectations.

Bündchen felt “hurt and used”

In her book, Gisele talks about how the characteristic of sharing is something she grew up having in-built into her. The model wrote about how coming from a humble background, sharing was an attribute that she learned at a very young age, and she carried it on for years. She said that because of the image she had, refusing to help anyone put her in a negative light. 

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She wrote, “At one point I realized that no matter how much I gave, it never seemed to be enough. People would get upset when I said, ‘Sorry, I can’t help you.’ I was left feeling hurt and used. I learned that in any relationship, no way should one person do all the giving, and the other person all the taking, because resentment will start building up from both sides and the friendship will become damaged.”

Gisele comes from the humble roots of her home in Horizontina in Brazil. She grew up with five sisters, with three of them sharing one bedroom together. Even when they had chocolate, they divided it into six equal pieces for everybody. So at an early age in life, the model inculcated traits of selflessness in her. But she saw that people took advantage of her good-natured will. Gisele also talked about a certain concept around sharing in relationships that she learned from her study of the philosophy of Kaballah.

Sharing the ‘Bread of Shame’ 

Gisele Bündchen mentioned in her book that, her studies of Kaballah, exposed her to the concept of the ‘Bread of Shame.’ It stated that in order for an individual to earn the light in their life, the work of transformation should be self-centered. Gisele wrote, “If we are over-giving or doing something for a person that they have not earned, we are giving them the Bread of Shame. If we take more than we give, then we are consuming the Bread of Shame.’ She further went on to write about how sometimes, the best way to love others is to let them embark on their own journey of self-enlightenment. After learning this concept, Gisele became more aware of the people she kept close to her.

With all the lessons she has learned over the years, the Brazilian model has now embarked on another chapter of her journey post-divorce. While she still co-parents her children with Brady to give them a good future, it will be interesting to see what this new phase in her life holds for Gisele.

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