“I literally lost my family… I wasn’t there emotionally. I wasn’t empathetic…” Matt Barnes tried owning up to his mistakes that led to his split with Anansa Sims, but is he all good? Or was there something that he was hiding? Well, Anansa Sims’ post that followed these statements from Barnes certainly pointed in the direction that there was more to this story. And when the dust settled, the possibility of reconciliation between the two seemed thin. Amid such circumstances, both Sims and Barnes would likely have to consider moving on. But the time needed by the ex-Los Angeles Star seems to be a challenge.

Let’s not forget—this wasn’t a new chapter that either of the two rushed into. Barnes and Sims had been in an on-again, off-again relationship for five years before getting engaged in December 2022. That’s a lot of shared memories and emotional investment. Now that the engagement has ended, the thought of either of them embracing marriage again might feel distant in the near future. But when Matt Barnes recently opened up about how much time he’d need before considering it, the answer took many by surprise.

“I will say marriage… I’m not afraid. It’s not out of the picture for me… I want to be older… Let me be… 50, 55, maybe even 60…” Barnes shared during his appearance on The Truth After Dark podcast. His words caught the podcast host Azar Farideh off guard, prompting her to ask if Barnes really needed that much time to get everything out of his system.

“I don’t think it’s everything out. I just think I want. I gotta watch. This s—‘s gonna go on. Damn this vlog right now. If I say what it…” Barnes trailed off, seemingly battling with himself about how much to reveal. That moment of pause spoke volumes. Well, after going through a high-profile split, it’s only natural for anyone to approach the idea of marriage with hesitation.

And Matt Barnes is no stranger to painful separations. Before Sims, he was married to Gloria Govan—a relationship that ended in bitter accusations. One claimed the other was unfaithful with a friend, while the other accused the next of violence. The aftermath left emotional marks that don’t just vanish. Fast forward to his breakup with Sims, and things didn’t exactly end peacefully there, either.

She accused him of cheating, which likely added more weight to an already heavy emotional load. “I once loved a man so much that I was fixing him while he was breaking me,” read the story shared by Sims, along with a caption in her now-deleted IG post: “Why Matt?? 8 different women in January.” Furthermore, Anansa even called out the ex-NBA star for telling half-truths during his emotional meltdown of sorts.

Anansa Sims calls out Matt Barnes on his alleged half-true admission of mistakes

When Barnes opened up about his split from Anansa Sims, it sounded like a moment of self-reflection. Speaking on his All The Smoke podcast, he didn’t hold back on where he felt things went wrong. “… I was the strong provider, but I wasn’t there emotionally… I wasn’t empathetic… That was stuff that my ex would tell me: ‘I don’t… you’re a wall,'” Barnes said on All The Smoke, seemingly acknowledging his own emotional shortcomings. But Anansa wasn’t having it.

She responded on social media, urging people to learn both sides of the story before being sympathetic with anyone. “Don’t post half truths about me and our past relationship to gain sympathy from the masses,” she wrote, calling out Barnes. The plus-size model doubled down on Barnes’ claim of being emotionally absent, but also accused Matt Barnes of being “willing to be ‘vulnerable’ for strangers on the gram for profit…”

Her message didn’t stop there. She also indirectly called attention to the alleged infidelity that Barnes may have conveniently left out during his admission of mistakes. With one final note, she made her position clear: “If you want to do some good, please don’t speak about me, go get consistent therapy and most importantly start building a relationship with God. Peace & Blessings.” It seems the post might’ve struck a chord with Matt Barnes, as even though he shared his willingness to reconsider marriage after a certain time, he seemed hesitant to speak any further on The Truth After Dark podcast.